Thursday, January 31, 2008

GOOD PLANS UNREALIZED

For those of you that do not know, this year me and the hubster will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary. I know - shocking!!! What's even more shocking is the fact that we are still married. I don't mean this in a mean way like "he's such an asshat", but statisitically speaking, Jarrett and I should have been divorced twice over by now. I'll explain:

Over half of people who undergo infertility end up splitting. It's just one of those sad things where probably one of the people in the couple is having the infertility issue, and the other person can't get over it (ie: a friend of ours couldn't accept never having her own biological children). Instead of drawing each other closer, it can cause a lot of animosity. Lucky for us, we were the ones that supported each other.

Second, over 70% of parents with an autistic child end up divorced. HOLY SMOKES!!! That's pretty bad! I can see it thoug: parents have no time for themselves anymore, the stress of having an autistic child: it's not easy. So far so good with us though.

So here we are - 10 years in and going strong. Got over the "seven year itch" period (LOL), and I think we just may make it. Which brings me to the point of the post. For our 10 year we discussed what gifts we will be bestowing on each other. Jarrett is buying me a three-stone diamond ring and I'm buying him a Rolex watch. Now I've known I'm getting this ring since 9 years ago... lol and the watch he's known about for the past 5 years. So it's not like "surprise guess what I'm getting you". Now for those of you who don't know this.... we have an anniversary sequence of the number 24. We started dating on August 24, got engaged January 24, and got married October 24. And this past January 24 marked the 10 year anniversary of our proposal.

So my husband has been planning the 10 year anniversary for a few years, which involves a kick-ass trip this year plus other surprises I"m not privy to. All I know is, in his words, this year will be "ten months of surprises". OK sounds romantic!!! UNTIL he tells me a few weeks ago, "I had a really good idea of a surprise for you". I say oh what? I'm curious (ok nosey) and so he tells me:

"You know how you know that you are getting the ring for the 10 year? I was going to give it to you on January 24th and re-propose to you."

My jaw drops open, because honestly, this is EXTREMELY romantic and I would have been totally shocked because I wouldn't have expected it. HOWEVER NEVER TELL YOUR WIFE OF THE ROMANTIC IDEA YOU HAD THAT YOU DIDN'T FOLLOW THROUGH WITH! I mean c'mon guys! Not to mention before he told me this, he took me out to look at actual rings. Not to buy but to check out to get a feel for what I liked. So I got to try on all these sparkly rings (beautiful rings), and then he dangles the prospect in front of me and says "sorry!"

OK before you think I'm completely horrid yes I know I'm still getting it but still... it would've been an awesome story to tell. I mean c'mon admit it!!! He gets partial credit I suppose for the thought. And as he told me "honey it's really the thought that counts".

4 comments:

Maddy said...

Yes think of the romantic trips, foreign travel.......
We spent our 10 anniversary, July 1st, on a transatlantic flight, same as we do every year......along with all our children surrounding us, 10 solid hours of fun, fun, fun.

I think I'd vote for a little diamond cluster or two, or even a can ring pull come to think of it.
Cheers

Melissa said...

Wow what a coincidence! This year is also our 10th year!

And we have a magic number too…. Except it’s 27.

Starting dating on Nov 27th, Engaged on Nov 27th and married on June 27th.

And then our twins were born 4 yrs later on June 27th. And our 3rd daughter? Yup, born on April 27th.

Fratzels said...

Wellllll...the thought was there, and that's more than I can say for my hubs. His idea of romance is doing the dishes a couple of times a week.
Everytime I see one of those jewelry commmercials on tv, where the man suprises her with a necklace in an unbelievbaly romantic way, I think they must be written by women...then you write this post. It gives me hope that there are some romantic men out there!

Noemi said...

WOW! You are right! That would have been a great story to tell! My hubby is definetly not the romantic type. I have been wanting a diamond pendant for the longest! Some day...